Graduate a Homeschooler

Homeschool high school readiness?  What is that?  Many years ago I read an article that said children are going to school longer and are learning less each year. That thought has resonated with me during my year of homeschooling.

So from the time my sons were young, I have used both online informal testing and formal testing to determine not only what I think they should know, but to determine their state of readiness for ALL grades.

Homeschool High School Readiness

We hear the term readiness associated with preschoolers entering formal schooling. Rightly so researchers put so much emphasis on a baby’s development, preparation or readiness, and a parent’s influence on their toddler.

However, readiness is more critical at the high school age when our children are getting ready to take on more responsibility beyond just academics.

So just what is readiness? How concerned with it should we be as we homeschool during the high school years?

Readiness is defined as preparation for what comes next.  Breaking this down further, it is not just about how  academically prepared they are to take on high school level work, but it is also about the level of maturity in their social and emotional development.

What I have learned from homeschooling one son through high school and having my second son in high school now is that readiness means that signs are present that they are ready to take on a high school course load. 

And homeschooling has advantages because sometimes it means they are ready earlier than high school for a high school load and may even show readiness for college courses too. 

You certainly do not have to wait until high school to start high school courses and you can also delay formal high school work for another year.

What it does not mean is that the year they become a freshman something short of a miracle happens and they have suddenly gained some maturity or advanced insight. It also doesn’t mean they have instant mature decision making ability, but can still be unsure about their goals including career choices and college.

I have one son who was ready for high school level courses or the academics earlier in junior high and another one who is not ready for a larger academic load until his Junior year in high school. 

Start looking for high school readiness signs early so you can determine when you begin. You do not have to wait until the formal high school years to begin with high school.

Also, there are advantages to waiting for a heavy course load until later in high school when they are ready and will move along quicker making up for a slower start to high school. 

Looking back, it is just as important to look for those tell-tale signs to begin high school as it was when I started formal kindergarten with them.

High School – Ready or Not?

Below are 5 signs that helped me to determine when both of my sons were ready for high school level work regardless of when they actually started.

• One son demonstrated not only an interest in academics, but a desire to move ahead in more rigorous subjects.  The other demonstrated a need to have them done or a goal to completing academics.  I have sons with two different personalities, but both sons realized this is their future and wanted to complete their goals. They now have intrinsic motivation to complete their goals.
• Both sons were motivated on their own to begin their school day {this actually can happen quite young}, but the difference now was that they study at times of their own choosing that were not our regular school hours.  This comes from knowing that a goal is in sight and it now becomes their goal too.  It’s like having a true partnership with them in their education.  Teens can be a bit obsessive or is that motivated about everything they do from visiting with their friends, to working out to studying.  That same inspiration is now channeled to their future.  So yes they may be ready younger academically or ahead of their peers academically, but there is a certain maturity in reasoning that starts to appear too.
• One of my sons started researching opportunities to be more involved in the community. This goes straight to the issue of wanting to interact with people and it demonstrates a maturity of understanding social issues.  My other son is more shy, but our private conversations demonstrated not only an awareness of social issues, but a maturity realizing that people make choices we can’t control.
• Both sons argued with me {yep comes with the territory and you have to be padded with kindness and gentleness} over the curriculum I had selected.  Again, the I-am-not-sitting-back-and-letting-mom choose my curriculum marked another significant trait.  Like starting their day on their own, some children can reach this milestone early too.  The big difference demonstrating high school readiness is that it’s almost like your discussing with another adult why something would be beneficial for them.  It’s very different than explaining to a young child the benefits of why you chose a certain curriculum.

• One son began to use an organizational system that suited him and sometimes that included using my curriculum planner after his student planner.  His system grew more advanced as he was cognizant of deadlines and I had to help him with a hanging file folder system that he much more preferred over my system.  My other son struggles in organizational areas, but has his own reasons for meeting deadlines like wanting to be completed with school.  He uses his phone as part of his organizational system.  Both of them have good systems, they are just different.

Transitioning from Teen to Young Adult

I know I mentioned it earlier, but it really bears repeating when understanding this age and that is regardless of how they look {it’s almost like two grown men have moved in with me and my husband} and act mature at lot of the times, they are still changing from childhood to adulthood.

Noticing a few of these readiness skills for high school and adulthood has helped me to avoid some of the arguments in my house. 

Completely avoiding arguments is not even realistic and we have had our fair share of them.

Remember that your teen is in transition to adulthood and he will alternate back to childish behavior. 

Keeping that in mind every day has helped me to keep those ugly blow ups to minimal.  In the best calm voice I can have when I feel my worse, I tell them we can discuss this at a later time.  I try not to resort back to treating them childish, but try to use adult to adult tactics with them.

Looking at the positive, if your teen never questioned you about decisions, then will he accept what anybody that comes along in his life tells him without question? 

Teens are honing their decision making ability and trying it out on you first.  I am glad my teens question my decisions because they will not be so easily convicted when something goes against the values they have learned in our family.

I wish I could completely conquer the desire to want to lash out at both of them, but realizing that I don’t want to get caught up in any childish arguments does help.

As you can see, high school readiness is not just about academics, but it is about the exciting time when your teen stands on the threshold of adulthood.

Embrace that thrilling time while you look for signs of high school readiness. 

And remember though your teen may not say it or act like it, your guidance is more essential than ever as they seek to find their way through the challenges of entering adulthood.

Also, you’l love these other tips:

• 3 Beginner’s Tips: Homeschool High School Literature
• How to Teach Science Through A Story – Middle & High School
• Homeschool High School Literature Guides
• Starting Homeschool in High School – Is It Too Late?
• Free Homeschool High School Planning Sheet (and pssst help for high school too)