31 Day Blog Bootcamp for New Homeschoolers

Today is day 4 confronting relatives and naysayers in the free 31 Day Free Boot Camp for New Homeschoolers. Sometimes when our friend and family confront us about our choice to homeschool it can affect us.

I have never been to a wedding where the minister asks why a couple should not be joined in holy matrimony and somebody speaks ups to object.

Often times I wonder what would happen if somebody did object. What, the couple won’t get married if they are both adults? I think it would make for some great drama.

Then you hardly ever hear the old fashion line speak now or forever hold your peace, but that is just what is needed from relatives when you start to homeschool.

Too, sometimes relatives and family confront us with negative comments because they understand our lifestyle. I always think of it more like them questioning us instead of us confronting relatives and naysayers 

Also, if we focus on the criticism and negative talk it can take us away from what is important at the moment.

For example, my first instance of being criticized for homeschooling happened went I went to the mall one day. I was in line to pay for my items with my children cheerfully in tote.

Confronting Relatives and Naysayers

The lady behind me asked why my oldest was not in school. My reply with such conviction as if the whole world was going to be happy about my choice was “because I homeschool him”.

Her quick witted reply was “like you are doing now”.

Being crushed in spirit, I thought at that moment, if only I had some facts to support my decision to homeschool it would have made a difference.

What I have learned now is that any statistics and homeschooling facts should have been for my own sanity so when statements like that happen it doesn’t pierce my armor of conviction.

Have you taken time to read some studies and grab some facts?

My previous post on Day 3 directed you to the NHERI.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting some facts on your phone and keeping them handly to pull out and read

Of course, you would look smokin’ hot smart if you were to whip out your phone and pull up the website.

The truth of it is that there is nothing that really can prepare you for the criticism of family and friends other than to say it will happen.

Teaching in my new homeschooler workshops for ten years, I have to come realize that are two types of new homeschoolers when it comes to family criticism.

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One group determines this is what is best for their family and is not really affected by family comments and opinions and doesn’t solicit them.

The second group however is more affected and desires family approval or they are at least affected by the comments of others. The second group of moms are tender souls and it is hard for them to just shake off the dust of comments by others.

How to Prepare for Homeschool Criticism

One. Grab Facts & Statistics Speak Volumes.

Not everybody is moved by your desire to homeschool and are only silenced or at least give pause for thought when you talk about facts and numbers.

Two. Prepare Your Answers in Advance.

It took only one time for me to get caught off guard when asked why I decided to homeschool.

I not only wanted to prepare my mind,  but I wanted to represent other homeschoolers proudly. I had many replies and a few of them were:

• I homeschool because I want my kids socialized.
• I homeschool because my son was advanced and I needed to move at a different pace.
• We homeschool because the public school schedule is not our family schedule.

Three. Google More Reasons to Homeschool and Create Your Own List.

There is no lack of the advantages for homeschooling. I created a list of reasons why I wanted to homeschool and then added more as I schooled longer.

Creating your list now will add conviction to your tone and strengthen your resolve to homeschool.

Four. Just Be Nice.

Understanding that we all have a choice in how we educate our children and many will not agree helps to season your speech.

It is hard to determine at times when to speak and when to keep quiet.  I feel many times that I have to defend homeschooling choices, but I have learned sometimes it is better to say it is not for everybody.

Homeschooling does require self-sacrificing and we live in a world that does not engender that spirit.

I have given up many things to homeschool my sons, but none of them are worth trading for all the precious time and memories we have created so far.

I won’t look back and regret not learning professional photography, but I may have time in the future to learn it.

People are down on what they are not up on. I use this saying many times because everybody has a preconceived idea of what is homeschooling.

Maybe they know somebody that did not take their responsibility serious and didn’t really homeschool her children.

It happens. Appreciating that sometimes people are misinformed helps us to deal with them in kind ways.

I always try to encourage a conversation with naysayers instead of rapid fire come backs. If they are truly interested they will have a conversation with you, but if they only want to criticize then don’t waste your time.

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Also, look at a few other things about me.

• I am the author of the book Homeschooling 31 Day Boot Camp for New Homeschoolers: When You Don’t Know Where to Begin

And I have a detailed self-paced online homeschool Kickstarter course. It is a detailed comprehensive course for first time homeschoolers.

Also, prepare your children so they are not pawns by the relatives.

Relatives and other people alike can be very bold thinking they have a right to quiz children about what they are learning. Is it harmful or helpful? You can determine this by weighing in on what their motives are. Would this person be questioning your child if they went to public school?

When relatives speak up to criticize, it can create drama or not.

Negative drama depends on your response, not theirs.

Strengthen your homeschool resolve by preparing now for the fact that not everybody will be delighted about your lifestyle change, but then again you do not need their approval to embark on this exciting and memorable journey.

Other Resources for New Homeschoolers

Have you got any responses ready?

• I’m Homeschooling Because  I Want Them Socialized
• What to Expect When You Expect to Homeschool (25 Silliest Questions Ever
• Dear New Homeschooler – Are You Making this BIG Mistake? (I Was)

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Homeschool roots matter because without knowing roots, you can’t appreciate how precious your choice is. So in Day 2. of the 31 Day Free Boot Camp for New Homeschoolers savor the homeschool lifestyle by understanding how it got started.

For instance, I did a unit study with my children on the American Civil War or as my grandmother called it The War Between the States,

I added in lesson plans on our family genealogy during the Civil War because we had a family member who fought in the war.

Looking at the war through the eyes of past family members heightened the feelings of my children for the sensitive issues on both sides of the war.

Homeschooling is no different.

Understanding the history and struggle of pioneer homeschoolers builds appreciation for the depth and value of teaching your children at home.

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Taking time to understand your homeschool roots and heritage gives your journey meaning and richness beyond focusing just on a new math or history program.

When the time comes for struggling, you can take heart that thousands and thousands of homeschoolers have gone before you.

They not only pioneered the way, but in the process homeschooled, nurtured and cared for their family.

You too can do this by taking time to look at some of these homeschooling pioneers, past, and present.

{From left to right, Dr. Ruth Beechick, Dr. Raymond S. Moore, standing: Charlotte Mason, John Holt, Mary Pride.}

JOHN HOLT

One name written large in the history of homeschooling is that of author, relentless education reformer, and respected social critic, John Caldwell Holt.

Certainly, a pioneer in the homeschooling world, he is the author of Growing Without Schooling started in 1977.

It is no longer in print, but several of his articles can be found on-line and are worth poring over for encouragement. But also check out any books he wrote that you can.

Look at this link to grab some homeschooling roots and immerse yourself into the thinking of the past.

Click here to read Growing Without Schooling Resources.

CHARLOTTE MASON/CHARLOTTE MASON APPROACH

An 18th century British educator and a popular method of education that a lot of homeschoolers follow. She believed that education is “an atmosphere, a discipline, and a life.”

Some of her methods include narration, use of living books, short lessons and nature studies.

Click here to read Simple Charlotte Mason

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DR. RUTH BEECHICK

Dr. Ruth Beechick was a former teacher, professor, and curriculum developer. A respected pioneer in the homeschooling world and now retired.

She writes for homeschoolers whom she sees as the greatest hope for the future of our society.

There are too many excellent books and curriculum to list here. You will want to add most of her books to your homeschool library.

MARY PRIDE

Because there were not many books in the 80’s on homeschooling, Mary Pride’s work is considered pioneering.

She is also considered a curriculum guru in the homeschooling world. Founder of Practical Homeschooling magazine, her books are still considered some of the very most informative. In addition to a long list of books she wrote on homeschooling, we have to mention she did all this with nine children.

RAYMOND MOORE

Often referred to as the “Grandfather of Homeschooling”, he authored Better Late than Early.

The Moore formula of homeschooling can be summed up as follows; high success comes when you pay attention to the individual needs of the student, follow their interest and allow them to mature at their own rate.

This is NOT a complete list by any means of pioneers or those that paved the way. 

Look at the National Home Education Research Institute Left, Right, and Online: A Historic View of Homeschooling.

By avoiding the “I’ll-give-homeschool-a-year ” attitude you are on the road to understanding that homeschooling is so much more than choosing curriculum or taking it for a test run.

It is a lifestyle change and it takes longer than a year to adjust to any major change in your life.

Absorb the gems and pearls of thoughts from the minds of the past and the present and be determined to stay the course by watering your homeschool roots.

Other Resources for New Homeschoolers:

• Day 1 Learn The Lingo and New Homeschooler Free Bootcamp (& free glossary)
• The NOT To Do List: 32 Things New Homeschoolers Should Avoid
• Top 5 Homeschool Approaches New Homeschoolers Need to Know

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