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Skill Subjects vs. Content Subjects: What’s the Difference?

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I can’t help it, but my heart sinks each time I read or hear about a family sending their kids back to public school.

t’s true that we don’t really know another family’s problems or struggles and that may be their only choice, but a lot of times it’s because we all struggle with how to simplify our homeschool day.

Sharing about skill subjects vs. content subjects: what’s the difference, I don’t want to weigh you down with one more must do in your day, but I want to show you how to lighten up without compromising on your standard.

I don’t say this thoughtlessly either, but homeschooling does not have to be stressful, time sensitive, and always overwhelming.

Uncovering the secret to a simple and relaxing day with your younger kids and teens is to understand the difference between skill subjects and content subjects.

Skill Subjects vs. Content Subjects What's the Difference

Getting down to the nitty-gritty of teaching is what lightens your load because then you will be able to prioritize subjects.

For example, when a struggling homeschooler shared with me her list of school subjects for the year, it looked like this: (a real case example)

Composition, singing class, gymnastics, penmanship, science, Bible study, math, violin practice, learning Spanish, phonics, history, co-op class and Spelling Power.
She asked me if she had missed anything.

I wanted to reply, “Uhmm, you may be missing out on a good night’s sleep from now on with that list.”
I don’t say things like that though because I can sympathize with the tug on us as home educators to fall into the trap that more means more meaningful. It does not.

Too, children are just like us in a lot of ways when it comes to mounting pressure. They long for a simplified day or list.

Homeschool Zen – Skill-Based Subjects Versus Content Subjects

The secret to covering more in the day is to organize or separate the skills-based subjects from content subjects.

They simply do not have the same importance or can be covered differently.

Just what exactly is the difference between skill-based subjects and content-based subjects?

Skill-based subjects are those subjects that without them they could possibly handicap your child from learning anything at all or impair your child from learning about other subjects.

They are the very essentials, backbone and framework of any education.

For example, it’s hard to learn about history or the Bible when you can’t read.

Too, our children will have very little appreciation for the wonder of science if they can’t write anything in a science journal.

How will a child learn to budget or secure a well paying job if he doesn’t understand the basic 4 operations of arithmetic?

Can you take a guess at which subjects should rule your day?

Reading, writing, and arithmetic are considered your skills-based subjects. 

Too, another identifying mark of the skills-based subjects is that they need to be presented in a sequential order.  Introducing a letter of the alphabet, with the sound it makes to stringing the letters together to form a word are the foundational skills to learning to read.

Math is similar.  We teach from basic operations to meaningful formulas.

Can you see that every other subject, other than the three Rs, is a content subject?

That slices your schedule to just about half the subjects that you may think your child needs to cover.

Now that I explained the difference, I don’t want you to think that the other subjects are not important or that you shouldn’t cover them at all.

However, I am here to tell you from experience now that Mr. Senior 2013 is pursuing courses on his own that covering less history, less science, and less art with him have not been hindrances at all.

Because of his love for reading and learning, he has continued to learn about subjects that he is interested in or that we may not have had as much time to cover.

It’s his job now to continue to self-educate, I just gave him the foundational tools and did not get sidetracked.

Understanding the difference between the two types of subjects does not mean that I would encourage you to spend the whole day on just those subjects.

The point of explaining this though is for you to try this before you give up or feel like a failure because you may not be the bomb mom.

Looking back at my example of the struggling homeschooler, look at how I sliced and diced her day:

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compositionsinging class
penmanshipgymnastics
phonicsscience
Bibleviolin practice
spellinglearning Spanish
history
co-op class

Sure, kids may be a bit disappointed if we have to cut back some of their activities.  However, helping them to learn the value of priorities and modesty, which means understanding limits, will be a valuable life skilled learned better earlier than as an adult.

When Homeschooling is Challenging

Too, help your kids to appreciate that circumstances are mostly temporarily and that you will try to return to the normal schedule soon.

After all, missing a dance class or piano lesson or two is a small price to pay when our homeschool foundation is threatened.

If you are thinking about returning your children to public school, please shoot me an email or post your concerns here if the reasons are not private. I am here to help you stay the course because homeschooling is a superior education in every way if you have the circumstances to do it.

In an upcoming blog post I want to expand more about when and how to fold in content subjects because the knowledge gained from those subjects make up the very necessary skills that our children need as adults.

Can you see where you may need to lighten your load for a while at least?

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Hugs and love ya,

When Homeschooled Kids Are Not Excited About Ordinary Days

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Hearing other homeschoolers say how excited their child is about a new unit study, a new curriculum or the new school year when you may feel your child is not can certainly make you feel alone.

Do you have a child that is only thinking about what is required so he can spend the rest of the day playing, on the computer or his device?

Facing head on potential road blocks in our homeschool journey like when homeschooled kids are not excited about ordinary days or about anything pertaining to learning is the way I always prefer to tackle hurdles but I didn’t always feel so confident.

Do you feel that homeschooling is like choosing  the lesser of two evils? You are in good company and not alone.
When I started homeschooling I had conjured up a vision that because my education lacked in many areas that my sons would be bright-eyed and eager to learn every day.

I was excited to learn about all of the things I never did in school, but also I was determined to make my sons’ experiences different than mine.
Back to reality, I have had many times when the only thought on my boys’ mind was when is school going to be done so they can get on the computer, turn on the game or eat the left over pizza in the refrigerator.

Guess what? That is why they are not in charge. Let me share a few of my coping techniques.

Whose job is this anyway?

Early on I made it clear to my sons that it is their job to learn even if I am the most boring teacher.

Just like I would be working on my teaching skills, I made sure my kids knew what their role was in homeschooling.
Don’t think that parents who pull their kids out of public school in which they may have had a bad experience are the only ones that deal with a spoon-fed mentality by kids.

Learning to learn is a process for our kids. It is cultivated and nurtured through time and experiences.
There are many days our kids want to just play mindless games and sit back while we spoon feed them.  They are really no different than us if we give in to that inner person or side of our personality that just doesn’t want to show up some days to teach.

The difference between our kids and us of course is not only age but the ability to see the disastrous results if we live our life or homeschool in a mindless way.

Like us, the first step in getting children infused with learning is to teach them that what they can control is to show up at school with a positive attitude.

I have found through the years that instead of putting down how they may feel about homeschooling, I give it merit or validate it.

When our children see that we too as adults have the same feelings at times, it not only makes them feel that they are not alone, but that they can share the negative side of homeschooling and not be chastised for it.

Communicating true feelings even when our homeschooling may be boring is a wake up reminder that we might need to change a few things.
Attitude is the first subtle change to making a difference in our learning and that is something that nobody else can control.

If my children are old enough to cop an attitude about learning, they are old enough to start understanding the disastrous results.

I find it is better to be frank, set boundary lines for learning and explain why you have them for your children than for them to think life is going to be about eating their favorite leftovers of cold pizza each day.

A lot of things in life are just about doing things that we find boring and mundane but we will show up.

“I am not an entertainment act.“

We carry a lot of guilt as moms and negative thinking can make inroads in our hearts.

It is hard to carry around the guilt that our day doesn’t look as exciting as another family’s day.

That clear cut line, in that your child knows your expectations, allows them to work on their positive attitude while you decide where you can make improvement.

While I am sharing secrets, did I tell you that my lapbooks and unit studies were born out of my desire to be a better teacher?

I use to think lapbooks where for only young children. I set a bar for myself, like I do for my sons and wanted my teaching and activities to be something that draws my sons to learning.

Sharing my unit studies and lapbooks allowed me to not only set a standard for the type of teacher I wanted to be but it also shoved deep down that tyrannical mother I could be when it came to learning.

I have learned to let go of the fact that it’s not my fault that some days are just well – routine.

Life and school are very similar because life is more about routine than life altering moments.

I have learned that from routine comes the tiny moments I cherish in homeschooling.

Teaching my sons to value routine was also the start of changing their attitude about learning when most people may think that routine is boring.

Establish a routine. 

We all have interruptions in our school.

It can be hard to break the habit of letting things that are nonessential take over our day and break our routine.

I feel all homeschoolers crave routine even though sometimes we don’t recognize our natural desire to have a flow to day that we can predict.

Following our body’s natural rhythm to sleep, eat and move around, we have that same desire to learn and be educated.

When my sons know what to expect each day and don’t wander around aimlessly asking what we are going to do each day, it makes for calm in my home.

Post a visual homeschool schedule if your children are young or post a class schedule in their notebooks if your children are older.

Help them to get started on time by not having so much chaos in the house that it is distracting to their routine.

I still find everything fascinating about learning but more importantly I find happiness in being passionate about teaching my sons.

Enthusiasm is contagious and it starts with you, not them.

It doesn’t mean we don’t require a positive attitude when our children show up for learning, but it means we model the type of adults we want our children to eventually be.

Weaved into that attitude is the reason we are excited about showing up each day to homeschool.

I don’t believe the only reason we should be eager learners is to get a good paying job or to go to college but for the gift of curiosity.
Curiosity has sticking power unlike any career or any college degree.

I have also  learned that it is my job to try to make each day a little better than the next day.
Because I can’t sing, dance or draw my sons will have to accept I will do my best to teach and I will accept that they will do their best to show up for days that are just ordinary.

How about you? Are most of your days just ordinary?

Hugs and love ya,

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Stop the Homeschool Time Drain!

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Because we genuinely care about raising well-rounded children, we are constantly analyzing our homeschool approach, poring over how-to articles and are trying to think of creative ways to connect with more homeschoolers.

We never want to be one of those homeschoolers.  You know the ones that didn’t socialize our kids.

The “art of socialization” is a never ending topic in the homeschool world.

I am not even going to go there about the hotly debated term of socialization because I’ll leave that when I have had more caffeine.

Today, I want to encourage you to think about the stress we bring on ourselves when we try to adopt this world’s view about our children needing socialization.

Are Your Homeschool Activities Losing Value?

How do you stop the homeschool time drain when you are connected with more groups, homeschoolers and co-ops than you would like to be at this time in your journey?

In our quest to raise our kids in the real world, we can take on more than we should when it comes to homeschooling activities.

Justifying our demanding schedule in the name of learning and homeschooling can lead us down a road where we are reacting instead of being proactive about our schedule.  Have you lost control?

Finding homeschool balance is not easy and it’s normal somewhere in our journey to be over involved with outside activities.  Finding the exact number of activities that enrich your year instead of encumber it is what counts.

For example, the time I had when my household was younger with preschoolers and toddlers was a terrific time for outside enrichment.

Not only did going to Kindermusik (music classes for babies, toddlers and early childhood) nurture my sons’ readiness for learning, but it was a way for me to educate myself about child development and to make lifelong friends with other homeschooling moms.  I didn’t realize that of course at the time.

When my son got to high school age and before Mr. Senior 2013 was driving on his own, his need for visiting with other young men his age, his need for fulfilling some of my class requirements in high school and his desire to look for a job made for more demands on my time for outside activities.

Stop the Homeschool Time Drain! It's not easy to manage your time with so many outside activities to do. Look at how one seasoned mom did it!

Gauging how much time to spend outside the house is not easy.

Look at these points that can be used to help you take control back of outside activities.

  • Return on your Time.  What value are you getting from the outside activities?

If your goal is for your children to have more homeschooling friends, then is taking a private class worth the investment right now?  The class has to be weighed against several factors to see if it’s of value at this present time.

For example, if you have several children and they are all very young, then would an active group with a regular park day be a better investment of your time than an activity for one child?  Don’t make decisions based on mommy guilt.

The more kids you have the harder it is to satisfy their individual needs.  I am not discouraging you from doing this, but I am encouraging you to try to meet whatever your goal is for the current year.

I do know this and that is the older kids get, the easier it is to meet their individual needs because you have help in getting out the door, help with the house and even have supper cooked for you on certain days by your teens.

  • Alternating Activities = Sanity-Sparing.  Also, as kids get older, they really don’t care how many siblings they have when it comes to a class or hobby they want to take.

One reason we are homeschooling is to explore unique educational opportunities for each child.  To balance one child’s needs with the needs of the other family members can be downright puzzling.

When I got to the point in my journey when each son wanted different classes, I came up with another solution.  I alternated their classes each week.

I cannot tell you how much stress this relieved, but also how effortlessly it worked.

Though it took more time on my part working out a new schedule other than the one suggested by the different teachers, each of my sons were delighted to be taking classes that interested them and I was glad I was able to control how much time we were away from the house.

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It worked something like this.

Using Tuesday as an example, we would take art class the first Tuesday.  The next Tuesday, it would be wood working class and then back to art class the third Tuesday and so forth.

Did I mention a couple of unexpected side benefits? The cost was lower because it was spread out and the extra time in between classes allowed the boys to focus more energetically on what they were learning.

The plod along pace was a luxury that made learning about each topic more meaningful for the year.

Too, I switched to year around homeschooling and that was a perfect fit to help my sons finish the full course though it was done slower.

The key to making this plan work is to be sure you use the same weekday.

Making my schedule stick to one day outside the house in what would be otherwise be two days away from the house because the woodworking teacher wanted one son to come on Wednesdays and the art teacher wanted my other son to come on Tuesday is the sanity-sparing tip.

Be very picky in about giving up another day away from home and be very creative in how you use days away from the house.

  • Half-Day School.  Half-day classes are not just for kindergarteners.

This was my other revelation the longer I homeschooled.  If I was going to be away from the house, then I could also satisfy all of my children’s needs for unique classes if I divided up one day.

Getting two classes in on one day for different kids is not easy when they are young, but when they are older, it is easier.

The tidbit to remember here is to try to schedule first in the day the class that is more academically intensive when your child is fresh.

Mr. Senior 2013 took a writing class in the morning with other homeschoolers and then in the afternoon, I scooted by the piano teacher for music lessons for Mr. Awesome and Tiny.

When Mr. Senior 2013 was at his writing class, I headed to the library for read aloud time for my younger boys.

After traveling the distance to town, the younger boys were ready to move around and we will never forget Mrs. Lou Lou at the library because she made reading time come alive through dancing and singing.

The piano lesson in the afternoon was only about 45 minutes for the younger kids and it was time enough for me and Mr. Senior 2013 to grab a cherry limeade at our favorite drive-through restaurant, talk about what he learned without interruption from his younger siblings and to share some heart felt moments when he and I were alone.

It was hectic to get out of the house many mornings but I tried my best on minimizing stress in the morning by having their clothes laid out and trying to prep my crockpot the night before.

It has been worth every effort of both driving in the rain and sitting outside in the car in the hot sun as my sons made lifelong friends.

I finally found just the pinch of socialization we needed each week.

Finding balance with not only filling the individual needs of my sons but my need, though I didn’t always realize it at the time, for homeschool friends was not easy by any stretch of the imagination.

I tend to over do things and have to find my center of balance again.

Over homeschooling, over parenting and over socializing can drain your homeschool time.  It’s worth considering the time you spend away from home each year.

Weigh outside home activities for the return value at the present moment, be creative in alternating your children’s schedule and look at half-day activities to divide and conquer the many activities your children are clamoring to do.

What about you?

Have you figured out other ways to meet your children’s needs without sacrificing your time away from home?

Hugs and love ya,

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The One Question Homeschooled Kids Dread Answering

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Besides answering questions to relatives about what my kids have been learning and no I don’t mean the kind of genuine questions where my extended family is interested, but the kind where they think they can quiz my kids to find out if they are truly learning, there is one question dreaded more by my kids.

The one question homeschooled kids dread answering is what grade they are in. And when my kids shrug their shoulders and answer with, “I don’t know”, that just gives the relatives one more thing to bristle about.

When kids have not been exposed to public school grade levels and they have not learned to keep pace with a grade level, they really don’t know what grade they are in and guess what? Most kids don’t care.

As my kids have grown older and see the shrieks of terror on some adult’s faces because my kids have no idea what grade they are, my kids try to reply as best they can.

When Mr. Senior 2013 was in fourth grade and without any prodding from me, he replied, “Which subject?” The reply made complete sense to me.

I learned a few things from that encounter:

It was probably best to prepare my kids for questions like that because most people are asking just to be polite;

It was a reminder to me that I had released myself from the bondage of graded level learning because my kids were all over the place in each subject and it was a good feeling;

That my kids were being allowed to learn at their own pace;

That I did recognize the differences in each of my kids because they were accomplishing skills at different grade levels; and

That if I had to reply to it I probably would have to say something like he is in 9th grade reading, 7th grade grammar, 8th grade math, 7th grade writing. .. oh my!

Through the years, I have found it better to reply with a more general reply like he is in middle school or high school.

Too, I find a more general reply avoids a lot of confusion even for my sons. For example, we may have started a new curriculum mid-year and my sons may reply they are in one grade level for that year and then still be in that same grade level the beginning of the next year.

To avoid my kids feeling confused, which are the only ones I am concerned about when answering that question, I just have them reply in generalities by saying middle school or elementary school.  The kids understand there are about 3 or 4 grades considered for any level, even high school.

Sometimes, the boys reply by saying their age and then the adult can figure it out on their own.

Besides how many people would understand that you may be starting pre-algebra with a 11 year old or a 5th grader reading high school level literature?

How about you? Do your kids know which grade they are in?

Hugs and love ya,

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3 Traps to Avoid When Home and School Come Together Mid-Year

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At the end of the year is not when most people probably want to talk about homeschooling mid-year.  But when January rolls around, home and school can collide.

Whether you have the itch to try a different approach or you are brand spanking new to homeschooling, there are 3 traps to avoid when home and school come together mid-year.

Avoid I’m-behind-already anxiety.

Without giving you a legal synopsis on who invented standards based learning, you have to adopt what standard you choose to live and educate by.  The mentality that you are already behind from your beginning is self-defeating.

Opportunities for enrichment and learning do not only happen between August and May.  Avoid the tug and trend of the public educational world that tells you when you are starting mid-year, you have to catch up.

Instead of focusing on what you are not doing right now, remember that this is a big change for your family and everybody will need time to adjust to a new schedule.

Focus on what you have done which is to take control of how you will measure the progress of your children and to not measure them by some perfect child that does not even exist.

The rigors of withdrawing from public school after possible drama can make it physically and mentally exhausting for the whole family.

The beginning is a point to learn about how to homeschool and that is enough for the first year of change.

Look at 8 Components of a Boxed Curriculum and How to Use a Boxed Curriculum without Giving Up Your Homeschool Approach because you can glean some tips by easing the stress of lesson planning in the beginning.

Start taking control back of your family’s education by allowing them time to recuperate and rest before your embark on your new journey. This process is called deschooling.

Deschooling can mean several things depending on your family’s circumstances.

The common factor among most families is that it is a time to step back and assess what you want for your family.

It can mean taking time to physically rest. For some families it is a time to rethink their educational goals and for other families it can be at time to rekindle their relationship with one another.

However you choose to use this time depends on the needs of your family. Avoid setting up dogmatic rules about how long your family needs to recover.
Some families need a few weeks to recover and others need a few months.  It does not mean you don’t do any learning.

It does mean you decide during this recovery period what your family will learn.  Take time to explore your possibilities and options.

Avoid cracking open your curriculum immediately.

This can be especially hard if you feel that your child has been getting further and further behind.

What I want you to know is that when a parent spends one-to-one time training their children, they will excel at academics.  And normally, this can be done in half the time the public school takes for the day to do academics.

What I am saying is that you have time. Take time to nurture the strained relationship with your child first. This is especially important if your child is older.

FIRST WARNING SIGNS OF HOMESCHOOL BURNOUT

Up to this time, your child’s experience with public school may be negative or maybe this year you have had a negative experience with your homeschool approach or curriculum.

This negative experiences can affect how a child thinks learning is suppose to happen. Digging deeper into something that is not working only sets you back instead of thrusting you forward.  Don’t do it.

Start out your year by studying something that captures your child’s love of learning.  Take a look at 50 Free History Unit Studies and grab you one or two.

For some kids this is a craft, for older children it can be a unit study on a topic they find fascinating and for others it can be creating a hands-on model of something they want to learn about.

Reading aloud together also engenders a love of learning and it is not just for preschool age children.

I have read to my two older sons until high school.  Besides equating reading with sheer pleasure, it evokes the feeling of a warm atmosphere in my home.

Our reading together many times has turned into precious and personal time where my sons pour our their hearts to me about what is on their mind.

Creating opportunities to repair the relationship or even to nurture it takes leisurely moments of time.  That can’t be done when your only focus is cracking open the math workbook.

Avoid over committing.

Committing to your child means not over committing to other activities outside the house.

Trying to right all the perceived wrongs to our child, we may feel that joining every field trip group, local co-op and outside classes will be just the thing that our child needs.

Don’t flee one stressful schedule to run into another one even if the activities seem helpful.

Limiting outside activities in the beginning will allow your family time to adjust to a new lifestyle without the stress of too many outside activities.

As your family adjusts to a new routine and new curriculum, gradually fold in other activities.

This allows time for you to focus on what is important, which is getting to know how your child learns best, taking time to adjust to new curriculum and reading all you can about homeschooling.

When home and school meet up mid-year, it should be a time of exploring, experimenting, and evaluating.

It is a time to focus on what is important to you and to not follow what somebody else says to do.

Avoid the 3 common traps when beginning mid-year, which are I’m-already-behind mentality, cracking open the curriculum instead of focusing on what your family wants to learn and don’t over commit to outside activities thinking that your child needs his schedule filled up at every waking moment with socialization.  He does not.

You only have one new beginning, keep it memorable.  How do you plan to kick off your new year?

Hugs and love ya,

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