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10 Days Why A Homeschool Mom Is Not Better Than a Public School Mom (but could be). Day 3

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Rockin’ on in this series, I’m sharing 10 Days Why A Homeschool Mom Is Not Better Than a Public School Mom (but could be) Day 3 – Promoting Independent Learners.

Many parents would agree with me when I say that we normally teach children that independence is earned and not  something kids are instantly entitled to.

However, promoting independent learners and wanting to be independent of parental authority are not the same.

The difference between a homeschooling family and one that doesn’t is that homeschoolers teach their children to be independent learners, not passive recipients.

I’m not saying that public school children don’t learn this, but I am saying that the whole homeschool environment feeds independent learning.

Is Being an Independent Learner Overrated?

Why does it even matter? It’s important to teach our children that learning is their responsibility. Each child is unique and deserves more than a cookie cutter education.

When a child is an active partner in his education and not a passive standbyer, his whole attitude changes because he realizes he has a huge say and sway in what and how he learns.

Too, here is another fine difference between a homeschooling and non-homeschooling family. A non-homeschooling family can nurture an independent learner, but a homeschooling family not only nurtures, but promotes it.

When a child is not in a class of 30 kids, he learns that he needs to be the one asking questions about what he is learning. His creative thoughts are mustered up from the curriculum or material that he is learning and not from a kid that is his own age.

He realizes that he needs to learn to effectively manage his time. When a child learns for intrinsic value and not because of a grade or for a test or to perform for peers, he is motivated.

The learning environment at home should not mimic the environment at school. They are two completely different environments.

Taking this one step further, think about the environment in college or in a workplace. Both of these environments call for a self-motivated individual and our children are adults in training.

It doesn’t mean that we have to step back and let kids teach themselves because it’s our job to guide them.

However, guiding and force feeding them following a set of standards based for the majority of people are two completely different concepts.

Homeschooling is about appreciating the unique differences of each child and being willing to part with what we have whether it’s curriculum or our view to advance the way each child learns.

Being comfortable in what we are teaching our kids is not always a good thing.

We don’t want to do what is comfortable for us or familiar to us if it’s not working for our child.

Promoting independence starts with home, which is our environment and then it creeps forward to allowing our children to learn in the way that best fits them. Whether that manner is normal to the majority of people is not something we seek acceptance for.

Teaching kids to ask questions, think about what they’re learning, manage their time and to move ahead in their studies gives them a skill set that even adults struggle to have.

How do you teach your kids to be independent learners?

Also, look at my other tips in 10 Days Why A Homeschool Mom Is Not Better Than a Public School Mom (but could be). Day 1 Patience Is not Instantly Bestowed and 10 Days Why A Homeschool Mom Is Not Better Than a Public School Mom (but could be). Day 2 Confidence.

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If Your Homeschooled Kids Aren’t Bored, You May Not Be a Homeschooler

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It seems like a vicious cycle. You take your kids out of public school because they are bored and bring them home to school to realize they are still bored.

Exercising Creativity Muscles Prevents Boredom

Is boredom beneficial? Step back first and rethink the harried pace this educational world demands of our kids.

It’s one thing to be bored in public school because a child may not have a say in which courses he takes or may not be challenged and quite another to not seize moments of boredom while homeschooling.

Knowing that boredom can be caused by several factors and that some are positive and others are negative helped me to see that boredom can have a positive place in our homeschool journey.

If Your Homeschooled Kids are not bored you may not be a homeschooler @ Tina's Dynamic Homeschool Plus

Matter of fact, if your homeschooled kids are not bored, you may not be using homeschooling to the fullest. Out of boredom, worthwhile projects can be discovered.

Don’t get sucked up into the way the world constantly redefines success with school subjects, which consume every waking minute of a child’s life or that more academic work equals smarter.

Thinking back to my childhood, I didn’t grow up with ear buds hanging out of my ears or a cell phone hanging out of my pocket. I didn’t have 100 channels to select from on TV or even have YouTube, but my siblings and I never lacked for activities while learning.

Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not looking to go back to the good old days on some things because I love having information at my fingertips. And entertainment nowadays can fill a boredom niche, but it’s only temporary.

Growing up back then though, kids were less bored because they were more active, motivated and inspired. They had to look for creative outlets.

And wanting my kids to be active participators in their education instead of passive spectators is one reason I began homeschooling.

How to Not Let Your Homeschooled Kids be a Drag

Boredom is part of the homeschool journey because it gives a child a chance to unplug and quiet moments helps a child to widen their field of interests. It can mean you’re doing something right when every moment of learning is not planned.

For example, Mr. Senior 2013 enjoyed music always as a little boy. However, until he had quite boring moments at home, he didn’t realize that he had a love of classical music that he feeds to this day.

Too, Mr. Awesome 2015 knew he loved working with his hands and thought woodworking would be his calling. However, until he got bored and took lessons in a private woodworking class, he realized that he didn’t enjoy it as much.

Exploring and navigating through limitless opportunities for learning not widens a child’s interests, but adds spice to learning.

Many times being bored may not be the problem. The problem may be that a child takes a narrow view in interests, hobbies and activities and limits himself while learning.

He can’t think about what interests him when he seeks constant entertainment or satisfaction on his devices or with ear plugs plugged in. He needs to widen his interests and he needs time to investigate them.

Life is very different now and it’s easy to think that boredom is not bliss. I discussed this with my mother, who worked on a farm while she was growing up and who homeschooled my youngest sister. She told me kids weren’t idle back in her time either.

Again, a key point I learned from my mom was that kids didn’t get bored because they were making worthwhile contributions to the family and farm.

The way they spent their time was self-fulfilling because they were giving to others. That was another tell-tale sign of satisfaction, which is how they spent their time. Children and teens gain satisfaction by volunteering their time to help others.

Our kids are no different today.They still need a sense of accomplishment that only comes from doing.

Just reading, watching or listening to what other people are doing can make kids feel like an observer in their education.

A child’s mind needs to be fed with new experiences of their own created out of quiet, uninterrupted moments of boredom.

If your kids have had some boring moments and not because of negative feelings, what did they learn from those moments?

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How to Grow to Love Being a Homeschooler

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How to Grow to Love Being a Homeschooler. You can begin to homeschool without adopting the homeschool lifestyle but you would be missing out @ Tina's Dynamic Homeschool Plus

Whether it was a last-ditch decision or you planned for years to homeschool before your first child was born, everybody who begins to homeschool has to make the decision to grow to love being a homeschooler or not.

It can just be an educational choice or you can decide to passionately live the homeschool lifestyle.

Enjoying the benefits of the homeschool approach without adopting the lifestyle is possible, but not without being short-changed.

How can you adopt the homeschool lifestyle or be sure that you are embracing it to the fullest extent that your circumstances allow?

Look at these three ways how to measure your growth.

ONE | You have stopped trying to find the perfect curriculum.

It was about five years into my homeschooling journey when I learned that the challenge of choosing curriculum wasn’t going away. I knew that teaching my sons through everyday life was paramount.

Nurturing a Love for Lasting Learning

Living the homeschool lifestyle means that curriculum is now just a tool and you learn that it doesn’t really teach anything.

Sure, I need to have objectives and choose curriculum that gives me the freedom to teach my worldview, but I am doing the teaching.

What you are willing to do to teach your children is way more valuable than what you are willing to buy to teach them.

The challenge in homeschooling is not the endless pursuit of curriculum, but in helping your child to maintain his love of learning that he had when he was young.

Adopting the homeschool lifestyle means that you have moved beyond curriculum, progress reports, tests and needing accolades from friends and family that you are doing a super job.

Now, you simply don’t care what other people think. Did I mention it’s really liberating?

Learning that your life, no matter how boring you may think it is, it’s full of rich meaning for your children.

TWO | You maintain a homeschool routine, but not necessarily a rigid schedule.

Another tell-tale sign that you have embraced natural learning is that no longer do you fight to maintain your homeschool routine, but now homeschooling is not something extra you do in the day. It is the way you spend your day and everything else now revolves around it.

It’s hard for anything you begin to become a lifestyle overnight.

I think about being newly married or when I lost a lot of sleep when I brought my first son home from the hospital. Significant changes in my life called for significant effort to make them part of my life. It’s not long after the new changes in your life that you realize it’s hard to remember a time without your kids or your spouse.

Homeschooling becomes the same way. You are not constantly worried about completing curriculum or making grades and testing. Like life, you realize homeschooling has certain tests that need to be met, bt you meet them like you do anything else in your household.

THREE | You learned that you can’t homeschool on an ‘island.’

Associating with and joining with homeschoolers is like being immersed in learning another language. Until you do it, you can’t see where you’re coming up short.

For example, I didn’t fully appreciate how much faster we could learn another language until we had moved overseas. Having studied Spanish for many years, I had a good command of the vocabulary, but it was fragmented.

After we moved to South America and received total language immersion, it made me fully appreciate the language, lifestyle and culture.

When you refrain from meeting up with other homeschoolers or isolate you and your kids, it’s not only unhealthy, but it’s unnatural.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not telling you that you have to be a social butterfly and join every possible homeschool groups. Some groups are just too extreme for my taste and I tend to be very picky.

How Are You Measuring Up in Adopting the Homeschool Lifestyle?

What I am saying is that when you and your family stand in stark contrast to those in your neighborhood or your friends, you need a support system with others who are like-minded.

Instead of being overly critical of other homeschoolers’ choices when you meet with them, look at what you can learn from them. I received tips on how to homeschool multiple children, make time for myself and move ahead on curriculum when we were hitting a brick wall. Without the tips, I would have struggled longer.

Growing is part of everyday life and it’s amazing. If something or someone is not growing, it’s always a sign that something is wrong.

Have you adopted the homeschool lifestyle?

Grab some more ways to be an empowered homeschooler below:

3 Reasons Why Homeschoolers Are Take Charge People
Go Ahead and Make a Mistake: Homeschool Without Fear
10 Books That Boost Your Homeschool Zen (When It May Be Sagging)

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4 Reasons Your Homeschooled Child is Uninspired To Learn (and what to do)

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When you hear about the success (or so it seems anyway) of other homeschool families and their kids while your kid whines and won’t do anything other than what is absolutely necessary to get by for the day, it is the ultimate discouragement and makes you feel like a complete failure.

Today in sharing 4 reasons your homeschooled child is uninspired to learn, I am giving you some tried-and-trued tips that have worked for others that I supported when they got to a brick wall. Some kids too are just not excited about anything and that can be tough.

I hope this insight moves you to not give up on homeschool. You deserve to have a peaceful home without the fights, back talking and every day arguing.

Complacency can be a killer.

Children are no different than we are when it comes to being affected by their environment.

If they feel that their home learning environment is the same as public school, which they may be contented with, they may see no difference in how they are learning. Have you taken time to explore methods that work for your children or are you modeling public school?

Resentment sets in because a child may feel that public school was fine for him and he has very little motivation to change his day.

Homeschooling works when you embrace a life style change. Your child needs to know that homeschool and school at home are two very different concepts. See my article, The Great Homeschool Hoax – Public School At Home to be sure you are aware of the two very different educational models.

Forget strong-willed, the kid is a rebel.

There are many reasons that a child rebels and not all of them are necessarily signs that a child will go wayward. Children are affected by change or stress in their life. Childhood is all about constant change, so it’s not so easy to detect rebellion versus a silent cry for help.

However, if a child is outright rejecting your authority all the time and not just during school time, the problem more than likely is a discipline problem.

Let me say this again because it’s a subtle, but powerful detail to remember when you are having conflict. Here it is:Pay attention to what is going and to when you see rebellion. If it’s just during school time, it could be a struggle with their workload.

Are You Breeding Rebellion? (gulp)

Your child may be rebelling because he is drowning under the weight of a curriculum or approach that is not working for him. He doesn’t need discipline then, he needs relief, compassion and a champion to help him sort out what is not working for him.

However, if acting up or rebellion is most of the day and not just at school time and he is constantly arguing with you about everything, fighting with siblings and intentionally disrupting the entire day, then it could be rebelliousness. You will then need clear sanctions for his behavior.

If that is the case, it is better to put school aside or slow it down until you restore your relationship.

While you address the rebellion, which is stressful enough, keep school very light. It teaches your child too that while school is important, he is what matters most.

Grab some more tips in my article, 3 Wrongs Ways to Homeschool a Hot Headed Child.

Your “Ambitious” Planning Can Bite You Back.

Hiding my over planning insanity under the cover of “organized” for the year, I had to change. I too made the mistake of being over ambitious.

And no matter how many times we hear it, we forget it. Homeschooling is about finding what works for your child and not trying to make him somebody he is not.

Look at my points in my article, Homeschooling for the Love of Learning – Does it Really Work because ambitious homeschooling has a way of biting back.

In our enthusiasm we may be hurting our child because we could be setting curriculum goals, which may be impossible for a child to reach.

Helping many parents with planning, I know they want the best for their child. However, instead of teaching a child to love learning for intrinsic value, which is one of the greatest motivators to intelligence and by setting impossible goals, they set their child on the path to disappointment, burnout and exhaustion. It’s hard to come back from that.

Spending time reading aloud together (yes even with a teen in high school) can restore relationships. Check out my tips at Homeschooled Kids Who Read – Pastime Pleasure or Professional Prerequisite.

A child is either behind or advanced in grade level.

A child can advance by two grade levels or be totally bored with the curriculum. Learning is an ebb and flow and if we get too comfortable as parents with the same curriculum, we could be adding to a child’s lack of motivation for learning.

Homeschooling is about changes and if we are not challenging our children when they need it or delay the next concept or grade level to allow them to reach the next level when they’re ready, then we are fostering exasperation.

Grab some tips on finding a balance here at Helping our Homeschool Children Find their Inner Drive When We are Not Sure We Have It.

Setbacks are part of homeschooling and because homeschooling is parenting, it takes a thick skin to not view your child’s challenges as a personal assault.

Step back from school, do the core subjects until you find the problem. Identifying the problem is more than half the battle because then it gives you a starting point for a solution.

Has your child lost his love for learning? You are NOT alone.

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12 Ways for a Homeschooled Teen to Earn Money – A Budding Entrepreneur?

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Today, I’m sharing 12 ways for a homeschooled teen to earn money. Also, look at my page The Dynamics of How to Homeschool Easily and Smarter.

Long before they are of age to start working, kids want their own money.

And whether they count bricks at a construction site as a kid like my entrepreneur husband did or just want some spending money, kids are looking for creative ways to earn their own bucks.

12 Ways for a Homeschooled Teen to Earn Money – A Budding Entrepreneur @ Tina's Dynamic Homeschool Plus

I am sharing some of the things we have thought of to put some money in kids’ pockets.

Have You Seen My Husbands Book, Entrepreneur Born or Made?

I am so PROUD of him because he created this book as a manual for my boys. I know you’ll love it.

The First Signs of an Entrepreneur

Though, I have always wanted my boys to care for the elderly regardless of whether they got paid or not, there are some elderly people that set aside funds each month to pay for the “little” things like buying groceries or cleaning their house.

So, look at these 12 ways a homeschooled teen can earn money.

My mother in law just recently told me about wanting to find somebody to vacuum her house regularly.

1. Running errands for the elderly.

If we lived closer, we would do it no charge of course, but the thought got the creative juices flowing for my boys.

2. Garage sales.

If you live in a neighborhood that allows you to have garage sales a little more regularly than twice a year, then garage sales are a great way for your kids to help you clear out clutter and for them to earn a few dollars.

3. Pet walking/pet setting.

Pet setting for a friend going on a trip or walking a pet while a friend is at work is a great activity for kids too.

4. Vet office.

Kelley’s daughter started working at a vet office helping out and cleaning after the pets until she worked up to a full working professional.

5. Babysitting.

An oldie, but goodie is babysitting.

Nowadays, they even have free CPR classes and babysitting classes, unlike they did when I babysat.

6. Yardwork.

Most people, not just elderly would like reliable help for their yard at different times of the years.

Even raking leaves is hard work and people will pay to have leaves bagged.

Having all the boys I have, I didn’t realize how easy I have it when something needs to be moved.

7. Moving small furniture or hanging pictures.

They seem to consult with each other about what is the best way to move furniture longer than the actual process of moving a piece of furniture. 

That is okay, however, because they are learning to think of creative ways of moving furniture to make it easier for them.

So that is why I say small pieces or projects to move as they learn safety.

Also, picture hanging and getting on ladders is something teens can do since a lot of women, including myself, don’t like getting on ladders.

8. Washing and detailing cars.

This is also a great way to earn money.

If the teen has supplies, he can “travel” (meaning I don’t mind taking them to where my teens need to go to wash a car), be mobile and bring a personal service to a person.

People are busy and like being at their home and will pay for a washing service to come to them.

9. Washing the outside windows of professional buildings.

My husband has encouraged my boys to create their own business, like he did at their age by washing windows in professional buildings.

There are still many locally owned business today and they may get cleaning services for the inside but maybe not the outside windows.

Making a trip once or twice a month on a regular route to clean outside windows is a great teen business.

The best part is that your teen can make his own hours and do them after school.

It doesn’t matter if nobody is there or not at the business and its probably better because some businesses want cleaning done after hours anyway.

10. Make and sell crafts.

Though my boys are not always the crafty loving type of kids, they see this as a great business for some teens.

Teens can make jewelry or duct tape wallets and sell on line. Look at some ideas for duct tape crafting here.

11. Setting up instagram, email or printers for older folks.

Many folks, like my parents want to see what we are doing by having instagram or need help setting up a printer or even help managing an email account.

Things that are very easy for us and our kids are not so easy for older folks.

What older person wouldn’t like a well-behaved and respectful teen (cute probably too – okay, okay) set up some of these apps for them on their devices?

12. Selling New Products Purchased Freely

Then one more way to make income that I think is very creative is something I learned from a dear friend.

She would save coupons and buy products, like soap or toothpaste with her coupon that were 100% free.

And then turn around and sell those new items in a garage sale or flea market booth.

The garage sale was better and a lot of time, she would find flea market booths that would give her a free booth for a month or two as an introductory offer and she would sell items she got free with her coupons.

Many times, the products were small trial size, but it didn’t matter because she would still make a 100% profit.

I was impressed then and I am still impressed today.

Coupon cutting along with online apps save money in the store.

The best thing is to buy the size where the coupon buys it for free, but a discount works too.. Just show the app on your smart phone and you get a discount.

What ways has your homeschooled teen earn money?

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