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Top 10 Tips For New Homeschoolers – When You Don’t Know Where to Begin . . . Part 2

April 1, 2015 | Leave a Comment
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As if expressing your fears is not enough to make you want to turn and run from homeschooling, feelings of being overwhelmed can dominate each day.

In Top 10 Tips For New Homeschoolers – Curriculum, curriculum, curriculum – Isn’t that how to begin homeschooling? Part 1, I shared 5 homeschool tips and tools for the panic stricken.

Top 10 Tips for New Homeschoolers Part 2 @ Tinas Dynamic Homeschool Plus

Today I will be sharing 5 more tips.

From Panic Stricken to Empowered Educator

6. Long & Short Term Goals Equals Grounded Homeschooling.

Not just visualizing in your mind, but writing down what your goals are or what brought you to homeschooling jolts you back to reality not IF, but when homeschooling gets tough.

It is easy to forget what is so vivid now in your mind about what you want to change when you start to experience problems in your homeschool.

The very foundation of your homeschool journey will be determined by clear goals.

Keeping the end goal in mind by writing them down now will ensure you that you will not swerve.

Sure, you will make mistakes, but that is part of the adventure. However, you will always come back to your goals to stay grounded in homeschooling.

Pen your goals, draw your goals, record your goals – Goals are the foundation of our journey!

7. Your Family’s Rhythm is Unique.

I have seen and shared lots of homeschool schedules over the years.

The problem with following other people’s schedule, even seasoned veterans is that you don’t lead their life.

You need to determine your family’s rhythm first.

This takes some time because homeschooling is new. You may have a young household and 10:00 a.m. may be a more realistic time to start school when the baby is down for his first nap time.

You may have an older household where the children are somewhat independent, then you need to get started earlier like 9:00 a.m.

Every homeschool household is at different stages in homeschooling and has different ages, but don’t get me wrong there are some across the board tips for finding your family’s rhythm and turning that into a schedule.

Here are just two basic tips.

  • Homeschool has to be the first in your day.

A simple research on this subject will show that a majority of children learn better when school is first in their day.

You notice I didn’t mention the time for what is “first” in your day.

Each of us will have to determine that, but it is safe to say that it is not after they are exhausted from a full day of activity.

  • Consistency Over Abrupt Stop/Start.

Key to making the homeschool lifestyle and schedule feel part of our everyday is consistency.

Planning too much, answering the phone in the middle of teaching a lesson (not an important one anyway) and willy-nilly scheduling can create a resistant learner faster than us understanding what that means.

Taking time to understand the natural flow of your family now will help you to minimize any potential scheduling distress.

8. Understand what is NOT Homeschooling.

Many times you will hear seasoned veterans talk about the difference between homeschooling and schooling at home.

I too wondered when I started homeschooling if such a choice of words was enough to be concerned about.

I can tell you now that fully grasping the meaning behind them would have saved me some tears shed in my first year.

Schooling at home means that you have only changed the geography of where your children are learning at now.

You have duplicated the public school method of teaching at home. Your home may look like a mini version of public school. I agree it is probably cuter, but have you taken time to learn about delight-directed learning?

Read What is REAL Homeschooling? Homebound, Co-op or Public School at Home .

Homeschooling is about choosing a method of instruction that works for our family. When the only method we know is what is taught in the public school and we haven’t take time to research other homeschool methods we could be setting our self up for a homeschool crash and burn.

There are reasons prestigious colleges actively pursue homeschoolers and there are reasons why homeschoolers are in the news for being high achievers.

It certainly is not for staying in sync with the public school curriculum and schedule built for the masses.

9. Curriculum is a Tool – It won’t Love You Back.

I get plain giddy when I talk about the subject of curriculum because I absolutely loving poring over the catalogs or putting my hands on it at a homeschool convention.

After I buy it, I sit over in the corner someplace out of my sons’ view so they can’t see as I inhale all the fresh smelling pages. It is a sickness I tell you, but you too will be joining us soon.

Though choosing curriculum each year end ups being more entertaining now, it certainly is quite overwhelming for any new homeschooler.

Choosing curriculum is an equal opportunity offender. Whether you have a public school teacher background or if you are like me with no prior teaching experience, having a few pointers will help you to be selective when first choosing it.

  • Curriculum does not teach anything.

You are the teacher now and that means you decide whether it is working for your children or not.

  • Your children are each different so that means you could possibly be using a different program for each of your children.

This is not meant to over whelm you, but it is about making smarter choices.

  • There is a difference between completing a curriculum and finishing it by using it to fit your purposes.

Completing a curriculum means having your child do every lesson plan and the other way you do every lesson plan that fits your child regardless if you finish the curriculum or not.

Simply put, curriculum does not hold some curative value.

Though using the right curriculum can help you to heal a child’s prior distaste about education and create a yearning for learning, your love and your finesse in wielding curriculum to help your children is of way more value. This too takes time to learn.

10. Relax – Easier said than Done.

As organized and prepared as I thought I was when I came to homeschooling, I wish I would have listened more when the few seasoned veteran homeschoolers I knew told me to relax and savor some of the journey.

The poor first born child seems to take the brunt of our over achieving learning because we feel that we have to prove to our family and of course to our self that we are doing this right.

Relax, find humor in all the things you will mess up and take comfort from the fact that unlike public school, you can change on a moment’s notice anything that is not working. You ARE the teacher now.

Adjusting expectations to survival mode the first year is much more realistic. Forgive yourself for what you cannot accomplish the first year while experiencing on the job training.

Just like parenting, homeschooling is accepting what you can accomplish to a point and then that progress and experience inspires you to work on being the best parent you can be to your child.

You can do it!

Also, be sure to go through my 31 Day Free Homeschool Boot Camp for New Homeschoolers and Homeschool Boot Camp Resources.

Hugs and love ya,

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How Can I Achieve Simple Homeschooling? Dynamic Reader Question

March 29, 2015 | 2 Comments
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Some days it is hard for me to write because I always prefer the weight of a spoken word over a written word when it comes to telling you things that are important to me, like your heartfelt questions.

How can I achieve simple homeschooling is a reader question and I always make time to change my blog posts to talk with you about things that are heavy on your heart.

How Can I Achieve Simple Homeschooling @ Tina's Dynamic Homeschool PlusLook at Anne’s question. Do you feel the same way?

“How can I achieve a simple homeschool ? The amount of available options and materials are overwhelming.

Even after 1 1/2 years into it. I just love all the fun and creative ideas out there and get “side tracked” by it all.

I would love to be more minimalist in my homeschooling so I don’t have to do so much sorting, organizing and constant revisiting of plans!

And your amazing blog and Facebook posts are not helping! So many wonderful things, and so much of it free. Who can resist? I look forward to your blog post. Thanks from an unintentional unorganizer who is overwhelmed.”

Satisfied with Simple Homeschooling

Certain times during my homeschooling journey, I envied the pioneers of the past, like my mother, who had very little to choose from when she started homeschooling my youngest sister.

Though I was in high school, I took notice of her home made flash cards, learning games and books she collected.
Her choices for learning products to choose from couldn’t even begin to rival with all the things that you and I have today.

My younger sister’s schooling days were simple, filled with creative learning techniques and fulfilling.

Less is more sometimes.  However, there are many times I remember too that my mom was not allowed to choose from the things we have today because back then she was not viewed as a “real” educator.  She couldn’t receive access to the same learning materials as other teachers.

Things have changed significantly during my homeschool journey because we have access to so many free things that just were not available to those that went before us.  I wouldn’t trade our options today for those limited options back then.

We face another problem today, which is curriculum options overload.
So what I am saying is that though free is available, it doesn’t always mean that it may fit our homeschool plans.
Today, we need to develop the ability as educators to reach back to the simple times of those homeschooling pioneers without giving up the options that we have now.
How do we do that?

Homeschool Teaching Goals vs. Curriculum

Struggling is something no homeschooler likes to do.

Out of struggles at times can come a clear plan of action. From my struggles of deciding which free resources to use, I had to balance them with with my teaching goals.

Along the way, I had forgotten what I was teaching that year, that week or a particular day when I was swimming in a sea of free resources.

Getting caught up in curriculum hype and teaching resources is easy to do.

Trimming those overwhelming resources to usable resources for our family is done way easier when we don’t forget our teaching goals.

Think back to the past again to the one room school houses.
Teachers had very limited resources for multiple ages. Resources were not the teaching tools but teaching goals were primary and resources were built around them.

Coming full circle today, that is why you see many seasoned homeschoolers tout over and over that curriculum is just a tool.  When free resources are used to embellish the direction we are going, those teaching resources just become tools that we are glad we have.

Just because our toolshed is full of unique tools that we may need someday, it does not mean we will use every tool when we simply want to weed a garden or trim the sidewalk.

However, when it comes to time for a big project or a unique project that suits our family, I am always glad I have unique tools on hand and organized in a way that I can find them.

Homeschool Organization – Simple is ALWAYS Best

After determining your teaching goals and being determined to stay on focus, you want to develop an organizational system that works for YOU.

Forget all the crazy notions of things you would never do, develop a simple system for immediately putting that tool where it belongs so you can retrieve it easily when you lesson plan.

A super complicated fancy organizational system does no good if you can’t use it.  It can go from useful to useless real fast.

Think of a system that does not slow you down, but one where you can download the freebies, organize them, put them in the place they belong in the beginning and that can be retrieved easily when you lesson plan. And the best part, it can be done in a few clicks with minimal time.

When I set up my homeschool files on my computer, I knew I didn’t want a kajillion different topic files because that would be hard to retrieve and hard for me look at when there are too many files.

I start with very HUGE general sweeping topics.  For example, SCIENCE, is one big main file.

I am not hunting on my computer for rocks, animals or chemistry.  All of that can fit under one topic.

File: SCIENCE.

Main Science File
I want one go to place for planning science when I get ready. Easy Peazzy.

Then next, I don’t just dump all the freebies in that ONE big file.

I took time to organizes sub-files so that “everything has a place”.

A little side tip about freebies.  Normally freebies come in either one of two ways when we get them.

One way is by grade level and the other way is just by subject.

Think about that for a few minute and it really tames all the freebies. They have a subject matter and are either grade level or not. Simple.

Knowing this, I set up my sub-files by grade level and by topic.

I go one tiny step further and even number them or label the sub-files so they stay in the order that I want them to.

For example, I put zero on Kindergarten sub-file so it stays in grade level order in front of 1st grade and so I don’t think that I missed overlooking making a file.

File: SCIENCE > Grade Level or Topic.{Life Science}

Science Files Organized

Too, you see I have the 4 main branches of science so that if a resource is not specifically grade level, it goes in there.

Then going even further, my sub, sub-files under LIFE SCIENCE are even labeled by plant, animal or human body alphabetically.

I won’t make your eyes pop out, but even under human body, I have sub files for each body part if I find those resources.

File: Science > Life Science> Topic.

Subfile under Life Science

You notice under Life Science that I have a file marked “Animals”.
Sometimes I may come across one free resource and I won’t make a sub file on that animal until I have a few more to put in a file.

This is just my system because until I make a file for it, I know I don’t have that many “tools” for that topic.
It is just MY system but it works for me. You may want to create a sub-file for each freebie you get.
Again, this is just my way of glancing quickly when I am planning and knowing that I don’t have much on that subject when I don’t have a sub-file.

You can see quickly that under many of the sub, sub files like Flowers, Insects, Dogs, Frogs and Human body that you can have many sub,sub,sub files.
Please don’t get overwhelmed with all of this, because you can create files as you go.
In the beginning, all of my files were general files like Animals until I started collecting an overwhelming amount of free resources. Then I slowly set up each file.

Phew. Back to the beginning, can you see though that a good place to start is with GENERAL CATEGORIES?

History, Science, Language Arts, Art, Music and Bible.  That’s it. Start there to organize your freebies as you plod along. Don’t spend time going back over things you already did.

Too, with the overwhelming amount of free online storage, there is no need to worry about downloading and storing your “tools”. Grab them all because homeschooling is a long journey and you’ll be surprised at how many freebies you will cycle through.

Now that I have homeschooled for quite a few years, I have items also stored on a Toshiba, external portable slim drive.

 

I love this baby.  It is so very slim and I can plug it in a second and it goes with me in my purse.

I prefer it sometimes over online storage because of how fast I can retrieve what I need.

Achieving simple homeschool means to not give up all the free resources we have today, but it means to use them to enhance, embellish and make our teaching come alive.

It means to be satisfied with a simple homeschool day like times pasts where kids eyes lit up when the teacher introduced a new tool.

Lastly, it means to set up an easy, non-time consuming system for storing and placing tools right then in their permanent place so that they can be retrieved instantly.

What are some other ways you keep your homeschool simple that Anne could use?

Hugs and love ya,

Tina 2015 Signature

Also, check out these tips for simple homeschooling:

When Homeschooled Kids Are Not Excited About Ordinary Days

Eliminating 3 Non-Essentials in Homeschooling

 

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What Do You Fear Most About Homeschooling?

March 18, 2015 | 12 Comments
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What do you fear most about homeschooling?  If we could see the list of others, whose list would be longer?

  • Fear that I won’t prepare my kids for the world outside of my home.
  • Fear that my extended family that is watching ever so close will inspect us at the end of the year to see if we failed.
  • Fear that I won’t guide my children to fulfill their God given talents to the best of their ability.
  • Fear of being a perfectionist on top of that being unorganized – is that possible?
  • Fear that I will miss some vital subject.
  • Fear that my children will get behind.
  • Fear that I am the only one that loses patience with my kids.
  • Fear that I am the only one where public school looks like the perfect solution on some days.

Does your list look similar?

What would make you more confident?

Knowing that you are not alone in your fears and knowing what worked and what did not work for others is encouraging.
However, there is one noteworthy step in my experience that stand outs among all others and that is goal setting.

What Do You Fear Most About Homeschooling @ Tina's Dynamic Homeschool Plus

Goals are not only essential but they are crucial.

Fears are normal in the beginning when homeschooling, but what is more important to remember is that you are now swimming upstream so to speak.  You are going against the norm and that requires hard work.

Goals energize us to stay focused on our family’s needs.

We will avoid just floating along, responding to the moment or jumping ship to adopt the newest trend in homeschooling when our goals are specific and measurable.

The second important thing to remember is that your journey will be unique.

This point is so important I want to say it again.

Though some of your experiences will mirror my experiences and other homeschoolers, they will not all be the same.

How to Make a Strong Start in Homeschooling

Bottom line is you have to be able to measure progress for your own unique journey and you need a way to do that.

Look at how setting goals reduces fears, gives you very specific ways to measure the progress of your unique family and fortifies you for each year.

  • We make progress based on our family’s need.
  • Instead of wasting time checking out all the latest trends in homeschooling, we are analyzing our own efforts and measuring progress within our own family.
  • We avoid boredom and a stagnant year because we are focused on whether we need to speed up our homeschooling journey or slow it down to meet our family’s need.
  • Homeschooling is more purposeful and inspirational because out time is focused on meeting goals instead of coasting along.

Though I have made some pretty pages for you to write your homeschool goals on, you can write them anywhere.

I tout it all the time and that is though goals may sound good in our mind, when we put them to paper they are concrete.

Don’t ever forget what brought you to homeschooling in the first place.

If our goals and reasons are not in plain sight each day we give in to fear.

As time passes, it happens to all us and that is we forget why we chose homeschooling as a superior education.  Those reasons quell any fears and keeps us plodding forward.

Like the subjects we teach our children, reminders are needed throughout the years when fears resurface.

Overcoming fears happens by not only arming yourself with homeschool knowledge but with goals.

When your goals are met each year, you don’t need the validation of others, either by testing or by family approval.

What are your fears about homeschooling? Where are your goals?

Hugs and love ya,

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Also, check out these other posts.

When You Feel Like a Homeschool Failure

When does homeschooling become “normal”?

 

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Homeschooling A Trial Run?

March 15, 2015 | 26 Comments
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No matter what our knowledge of the homeschool world is when we begin, the thought of giving homeschooling a trial run crosses our mind during our journey.

I had a younger sister who was homeschooled and I knew quite a bit about the homeschooling world then, but I still thought I should be prepared to send my first son back to public school.


Homeschool Trials – A Sign of Weakness?

What if my son missed out on opportunities that only the public school could offer?

What if the public school teacher was more prepared than myself on a particular subject?

What would I do if we got to high school and I didn’t have a science lab?

What field trips would he miss out on?

What I have learned is that we can’t lead our lives, teach our children or fully enjoy the benefits of homeschooling based on “what ifs”.
We will either be insane, live in a state of constant panic and fear or we can choose now to intentionally homeschool.

Now, when I think about homeschooling being a trial run it’s like saying: “I’ll give my newborn a year. Because if I don’t have a great year, we’ll we just can’t keep him.”

That may sound like a way out there analogy but homeschooling half-heartedly was paralyzing and insane.

I think about all the preparation I made for nine months when I had my first born.


I thought everything would go perfect, along with our perfect crib, perfect schedule and perfect baby because well — I planned, right?

If I had judged my whole parenthood by the first year with my oldest son, I wouldn’t have had any more kids because very few of my expectations were met.

It was not rock-a-bye-baby with my first son.

The sleepless nights, constant calls to the doctor and worrying, the nights up pacing, rocking, digging for information to understand him was met by lots of hard work and on the job training.  It was much more time than I even imagined.

Homeschooling is very similar.

I homeschool to enjoy the freedom, to have better standards, to give more time, to tailor the curriculum, to give my children a better future, to give my sons a better foot hold in life, to build Godly character, to foster sibling relationships, to build a relationship with God, to capture my child’s heart, to make learning a delight for the child and on and on.

Homeschooling A Trial Run @ Tina's Dynamic Homeschool Plus

I was not giving that up.

Along the way, I figured out this would not happen if I kept looking back instead of looking forward.

After my momentary lapse of fear when I put my son back in school for less than a year and took him back out, I realized that ruling out public school as an option from the beginning was the only way I could whole heartedly homeschool.

Too, though in the beginning my fears were more about not being able to meet my sons’ academic needs, the turns and twists of life have proven more challenging than meeting the academic ones.

Extended sicknesses by family members, deaths in our extended family, change of employment, financial ups and downs, pregnancy, and moving have been challenges that have you second guessing your journey.

Breaking all ties with public school was the best thing I did for our family. Why?

Because meeting the challenges of life was done best without interference with the public school schedule.

Public school may seem like a blessed relief in the beginning, but relief can quickly turn to restraint after the initial phase has passed.

Year-end testing, homework in the evenings and giving up control of what your children will be learning and when, were not things that I wanted to add to an already stressful time.

I weathered all the personal challenges I mentioned above and my homeschool conviction was stronger because of it.

At the time when I was making trips back and forth to the ICU in the hospital to care for my husband, laying on the couch because I was so nauseated each day of my pregnancy that I couldn’t hardly move to take care of my other children and driving hours and hours back and forth from my house to my mother’s house to care for my very sick mother, I felt my sons were going to be so behind in their academics that public school would be a relief.

Academics – Perk of Homeschooling?

Tears followed and the feeling of defeat loomed.
What I have come to treasure, value and hold on to is that out of every one of life’s challenges, we raced ahead, caught up and even moved ahead at certain times.
Along through the years, I taught my sons about compassion, nurturing older ones and the value of precious life. What a blessing!

Here are my answers now to the above questions:

If I sent my children back to public school, it would be giving them less as I can offer more even when the road blocks of life happen.

Yes, I have gaps in my education and will make mistakes. Through the years, I have seen plenty of mistakes in textbooks though.

Many professionals will know more on subjects than me, but I am the parent I don’t have to know the subjects, my children do.

I can hire private tutors, use DVDs, have my sons take on line classes and use co-ops and not to mention learn right along with my kids and I did.

We still don’t have a science lab.

We have something better, a fully stocked kitchen that is the perfect science lab.

Field trips are not taken once a year or a few times in the early years and then almost non-existent in the older grades, which is the norm in public school.

I did better. We have taken monthly field trips for every year and the field trips are some of my boys best learning moments. The tales we have to tell you now.

I don’t view myself as a particularly courageous or brave person, but through each hurdle, I was fortified, fueled and empowered for the next challenge and unswerving in my determination to stick to homeschooling.

Keep looking forward to your end goals and don’t measure your whole homeschooling career in front of you by one or two years. It is worth every effort and sacrifice.

What about you? Have you chosen to intentionally homeschool NOW?

Don’t give in thinking the other path is easier, check out these posts:

  • 8 Colossal Pitfalls of Homeschooling in the WHAT IF World
  • How to Grow to Love Being a Homeschooler
  •  From Struggling Homeschooler to Empowered Educator

Hugs and love ya,

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When You Feel Like a Homeschool Failure

February 28, 2015 | 12 Comments
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Admitting homeschool failure is not easy. Homeschooling has always been the right choice for our family although many years I wasn’t sure if I was the right teacher for the job.

When You Feel Like a Homeschool Failure

When you feel like a homeschool failure as a teacher, it can be a pretty gray period because you feel like you have really messed up your children.

I was a contributing factor for Mr. Senior 2013 getting behind in math.

Yep I did, I messed him up. First, let me tell what I did and then tell you what I learned.

Homeschool Failure or Wrong Ways to Homeschool?

We had been using Math U See and I didn’t think he was absorbing the formulas as well as I thought he should; I switched him to Teaching Textbooks right before high school.

Shortly after we started using it during high school, I realized that Teaching Textbooks put him behind and that he was actually ahead of where I thought he was. 

So we switched back to Math U See.

Can I just tell you how bad I felt?

Although I had been homeschooling for a while, I still didn’t recognize that Mr. Senior 2013 was just at a plateau and that some of the concepts he would soon understand.

Look at some of these tips that helped me to sort through the feelings of failure I had and get us back on track.

What if they are not just getting it? 

This is a tough one because each child is different and many factors affect whether or not your child is understanding a certain subject or curriculum.

Looking back now, I should have backed up to the point where Mr. Senior 2013 understood the curriculum and isolate the math concept instead of right thinking it was the total curriculum.

When I did this later on after I made the switch of course, I realized he was getting most of Math U See, but had only reached some upper level math that required a bit more time to understand.

Questioning Your Homeschool

I knew Mr. Senior’s 2013 ability to work at higher levels and instead of accepting his difficulties as part of his development, I thought he needed to keep sprinting forward. Pushing was the mistake on my part.

I knew Mr. Senior 2013 excelled at math and did not need constant repetition.

Instead of trusting his learning style, I was afraid that I was going to hold him back and in the process I did.

What I am trying to say is that his learning style was not going to change over night and I should have looked at other things that affected him instead of just the curriculum.

What do I feel like we are going backwards? That was another question I had to ask myself.

I had to analyze everything we were doing. Was I not spending enough time with him because the younger boys were tugging at my time?

Was his schedule too full?

Knowing that Mr. Senior 2013 flourished with routine, was I allowing too many outside activities to interfere with our routine.  These were all questions I had to go back and answer.

As I have learned now, one solution would have been to take off a month and do review and go back over previous mastered material.

I could have easily grabbed one of those inexpensive work texts and just let him sat at his comfortable level for a bit until the frustration passed.

It was hard for me to come up with that solution because math is one of his best subjects.

I just didn’t realize then that my kids would even need to step back in subjects they excelled in.

Last thing I wanted to do was to bore him with previous mastered material.

That was just the thing he needed as he was going through a period of physical growth.

School had to to take a second seat to allow time for his physical and emotional development.

Is the problem in just one subject? This is another tell-tale sign of how I knew it was developmental.

When we had problems before, it was normally one subject and that is a clue that maybe I needed to switch out that one curriculum.

Other things were going on in my son’s life that helped me to see that the curriculum was not the culprit.

He pretty much struggled with the everyday basics of doing school.

I didn’t take this lightly because this was my kid who was such a joy to teach because he loved routine and didn’t have to be told to start school.

Again, it’s easier to look back now. At the time I felt like I pretty much was failing my child because I didn’t have the luxury of looking forward.

Mr. Senior 2013 was going through changes when I did a honest self-evaluation.

He was getting real mouthy, disagreeing pretty much with everything I said, started looking for a job and expressed his concern about supporting himself.

I finally understood that when I felt like a homeschool failure that my son needed me more than ever. Not all failures are a “curriculum thing”.

He couldn’t figure out what was wrong with our homeschooling because of his inexperience. 

I needed to step up and help us sort through it without my son feeling like I was going to send him to public school or throw in the towel either one.

Instead of feeling like a homeschool failure, I realized the time was closing in on how much time I would have with Mr. Senior 2013.

Mistake I Will Never Make Again

I focused on the satisfaction of knowing that his changes in puberty was a part of his life that I was proud to be part of as me and my husband guided him along.

When You Feel Like a Homeschool Failure

Experiences like feeling like a homeschool failure build a deep down resolve and dogged determination to keep on homeschooling when you come through them and can finally pinpoint the problem.

Update 2020: As I write this, my three kids have graduated and are now adults. I’m mentoring a preschooler.

All the tears, all the worry, all the stress pales into comparison to how well-rounded and successful each of my kids are. What I’ve learned is that teaching my kids about defeat, how to get up, and move on have been of way more value in their every day life than being behind.

I’ve learned it was IMPOSSIBLE to teach everything, but I taught them how to research everything they wanted to know. When they have perceived gaps now as adults, they are not intimidated. I can’t hold back my happy tears.

Moms, you GOT THIS!

Look at these other tips about how to find solutions when you feel like nothing is working.

  • The Dos and Don’ts When You Hit A Learning Plateau in Homeschooling
  • When You Are Afraid of Homeschool Science Gaps
  • First Time Homeschool Mom: Am I Doing This Right?
  • 65 Best Teaching Tips for Embracing Homeschooling Multiple Ages and Ideas You Wished You Knew Earlier
  • 15 Old-Fashioned Useful Skills Homeschoolers Love To Teach
  • How to Mesh Your Personality With Homeschooling When They Collide
  • 100 Reasons Why Homeschooling is a SUPERIOR Education
  • How to Know What A Homeschooled Child Should Learn Yearly?
  • Homeschool Critics: How Do You Know You’re on Track?

What about you? Does this resonate with you?

Hug and love ya,

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When You Feel Like a Homeschool Failure @ Tina's Dynamic Homeschool Plus

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