5 Days of A Homeschooling Co-op Convert - Day 4: Co-op Core Leaders Matter

Co-op core leaders was an area of concern that held me back from becoming a co-op convert. You don’t have to homeschool for any length of time to figure out that a clash of personalities among leaders can break the spirit of a co-op.

Having a co–op that I cherish, I want to share some pointers and tips on what to look for in individuals who want to help lead a co-op.

Though a willing spirit is certainly a positive, it is not the only thing to look for if you want to successfully lead a co-op. There is no other way to say it except that I look for individuals that are there to “serve” instead of being looked to as “Leader” or looking at the co-op as a way to benefit their family only. The dogged determination to plan even when a leader is feeling a bit ill, her kids have been sick or other pressures of life have caught her feeling swamped is a beautiful quality. It is inherent or part of her make-up. In this world where folks only look after themselves, I place a high priority on persons who give of themselves willingly year after year.

I have known more leaders who at the first sign of stress, throw in the planning towel without a consideration to the rest of the leaders.

One of the leaders I ask to join was actually hesitant, which is a good quality. This means she is thinking seriously about this role and how to preserve the co-op. Instead of jumping willy nilly into it, it shows maturity on her part.

It is natural to want to look competent always in front of other homeschoolers, but a leader can set herself up for a big disappointment. Any successful co-op is always the work of a group.

Do not look for the laughing- we can do this–probably has no clue mom who shows up at all the events having suggestions. You don’t need flighty leaders. It is easy to suggest change, but quite a different thing to roll your sleeves up and do something about it yourself. Look at individuals with a realistic sense of what can be accomplished instead of idealistic.

Look for individuals who are not like you because they can bring another whole set of strengths to the group. You need to ask yourself: What qualities do I bring to the co-op? Answer truthfully and not something that you think other people want to hear.

For me, though I like crafts sometimes, I know I will never be Artsy Craftsy Tina. I do love to create things hands-on for my kids, but if you have a true friend like I do that is naturally crafty, you see her value. The creative ideas she has that brings an element of fun to your co-op are true treasures. I value her. In the same vein, she can appreciate my ability to organize an agenda and mind the details that are needed for a co-op. It is a much needed partnership based on mutual respect and cooperating with each other.

The third co-op leader in our group, Kelley, loves the technical aspect of things and knows how to draft a “mean what I say email” when one is needed as a group reminder. She works well with details that are laid out and goes over any spots other leaders may have missed. She too appreciates the value of a person that has been gifted with sharing arts and crafts with the group. When she handles money or even the technical details of any function, you can bet your co-op will run smoothly because she has a natural bent for checking things like that over.

The key to a unified board is that all of the persons respect each other and their strengths. It goes further too. They need to see that though they may have a different opinion about a matter that falls squarely into somebody else’s expertise, they have to yield to the person who has a natural bent that way.

That is not easy to do in a world that touts how important you are. However, none of the leaders can forget the reason for joining our hands and voices together. We do this for the children. It goes without saying that co-op leaders though not free of hurt feelings can not wear them on their sleeves. A group cannot survive if the co-op leaders quarrel too because it is sure to happen among the members.

It is not just the moms who say they want to help, but it is the moms who say they want to work, serve and help preserve peace.

The last important thing is to present a united front. No leader wants to be disliked in a group. So when you have rules, it is important to present a united front on the rules and not make only one person do this. That means to take the not so fun part of a co-op, rule enforcing, along with the fun interactive part of a co-op.

Look at a list of these things below that helps us in our co-op to present a united front.

Share one common email so that all leaders get the same message.
Discuss the issues presented at any co-op or field trips privately.
When releasing rules to the group, do that with the group email so the group sees it is a united front.
Agree on a few rules. You won’t be able to cover everything, but if a family sees a few rules like 10 or so and not pages and pages, they are more likely to feel warm and welcomed. As issues come up that have not been listed, you can discuss privately and let that individual know.
As the leader, be sure your family sticks to the rules too. Become a co-op model member too.

It helps to have a balance of personalities though they may clash with you at times because a co-op is much more healthier and energized. It will grow if you have done your jobs well. We grew from 6 families to well over 100, then had to cut it in half because it was too many families for us to manage without adding more core leaders.

Look at this list below of what each type of leader would do in a co-op.

Crafty person

Always has the best ideas for decorating the co-op.

She is very good at gathering games that are appropriate for each level and leading the games. She is very fun and warm and the children like her.

She is the decorator for the co–op and normally has ideas for making it easier to decorate.

She can come up with plays if you incorporate that into your co-op.

Technical Person

Good at coming up with how the duties need to be balanced among the leaders when it comes to the “behind the scenes” duties.

Excellent at keeping up with the group’s money.

Excellent at answering email to the group.

Could help in any technical matter related to putting on the co-op.

She works well with the crafty and organizer person both to help and give a hand if needed for finishing any tasks.

Organizer

Good at setting the co-op, time and dates and reminds the group.

Good emcee who keeps the co-op running smoothly along and keeps it moving along so that the co-op starts and ends on time. There is nothing more frustrating than leaders who do not start/stop on time.

A great resource for finding things in the community like speakers to line up for the group.

Can obtain a location and coordinate with persons or business that they rent a location from.

What do you think? Do you know a person or two like this that could form part of your co-op core board?

Hugs and love ya,